Happy Mother’s Day to all you mom’s out there.
Now let’s get real. Mother’s Day consists of a tsunami of sentimental expressions of how wonderful and fantastic every mother in the universe is, how much we sacrifice for our family, how loving and giving each of us is, and what goddesses we truly are.
All true. But what is conveniently left out of this grand celebration of maternity is the massive swamp of guilt that always sucks us into the muck of despair. There’s no doubt that mothers (and let’s not forget fathers) have the toughest job on the planet, and that no matter how hard we work at being great, it never seems to be enough. There’s always something left undone or unsaid that leaves us feeling we’ve fallen short of being the best mother we can be.
I ran across an excellent article, How To Deal With Mother’s Guilt, that attacks this pervading disease head on. The author gives 8 personal rules for silencing mother’s guilt, and my favorite is, “Stop judging yourself. Stop comparing yourself to other moms…” Another goody: “Get real. Understand that perfection in parenting is ridiculous.” The rest are thought provoking, as well, so I hope you check them out. Is love really all you need to be a supermom? (I’d have to say a few other things go into that package, but love’s the key in the supermom ignition.)
Today I will proudly wear my supermom cape for all that I’ve accomplished as the mother of four children. But tomorrow I will slip it off and say to myself, “I never was and never will be the perfect mom, but most likely (on my best days) I am good enough.”
How about you?